Dating a guy with social anxiety
MORE: The Top 3 Reasons Why Men Pull Away If you say something like, “Really? ” and get all excited, then he knows you’re really into him.
If not, he will probably dial it back on his part because he doesn’t think you’re all that into him…
At first, I thought he was just trying to end things, but then from time to time, he’ll text me something really sweet, like about how much he wants to see me, or that he’s been thinking about me, so obviously, he’s still interested or why would he do that?
Okay, I’m gonna let you in on something that very few women know.
It can be helpful to look at the initial period of dating as it’s own phase with its own specific qualities.
MORE: Exactly Why Men Withdraw From Relationships For example, in the beginning, both of you might feel a lot of excitement and also an undercurrent of fearful restlessness.
As I’ve said time and time again: When a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you (for any reason), believe him! It makes me sad to see, but there are a lot of relationships I see where the guy is insecure and wants to make sure the woman likes him.
So from his perspective, this is a perfect situation: He still gets to be technically single but also has your ongoing exclusive commitment, sex, and companionship. So if he starts feeling pressure from you for him to get into a relationship with him, he’s going to pull back… It’s because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship…
Or if he feels that the current dynamic is feeling too much like a “relationship” to him (whatever he defines that as), he’s going to pull back. and no amount of asking, begging, hinting, pressuring or convincing is going to change that!
The guy, if he hasn’t already, starts talking about how he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for some reason.
the guy change his mind if you’re going to stick around regardless of whether or not you’re in an explicitly committed, exclusive relationship?